Feng Shui for Love and Romance (Relationships and Marriage)
Feng shui offers useful tips in terms of boosting your chances of meeting your ideal partner, as well as improving the existing relationship. Before you make any feng shui changes in your home to maximise chances of finding your ideal partner, or improving the existing relationship one important step needs to happen. You need to know exactly what you want. Your intention for the new relationship is very important.
Feng shui = intention + energy + ritual
Write down what kind of relationship do you want to have
Writing down what kind of new relationship you want is critical for creating one. Write down your checklist, what you want and what you don’t want. Be as specific as possible (read the case studies below). This will help you establish a criteria for your ideal relationship. Reviewing your previous relationships and noticing what didn’t work and why helps to. You don’t want to have a new relationship that is just an old relationship but with a new body. In relationships, history repeats itself very often. If you haven’t reflected on the previous relationships and learnt the lessons there is a high chance that you’ll repeat it. Learn through wisdom, not experience (which usually is a very expensive teacher).
Look at this visual representations below of the most basic types of relationships and establish what kind relationships did you have in the past and what kind do you really want to have in the future.
Feng shui = intention + energy + ritual
Once you’ve establish and written down (ideally by hand) what kind of relationship you want to have, it’s time to find a representation of it for your home. Find some brand new images, symbols, pictures, objects that will represent your new relationship. For ideas and examples, go online and do a search for images ‘feng shui symbols for love and romance’. Pick something that really resonates with you. If nothing appeals to you, just get two nice red candles or two of something. Remember, intention is the most important thing. The ritual is just a servant of your intention. Be positive and do it when you’re feeling inspired and happy (this is the energy part). Once you’ve found your unique symbol/s for your new relationship place it in your bedroom – ideally in your love/relationship/marriage corner which is the furtherest corner on the right from your bedroom door. If it’s not possible to place it there just place it anywhere in the bedroom that feels suitable.
How to improve the existing relationship or marriage
The same applies here. Start fresh. Figure out what kind of relationship you have a the moment and what kind do you want to have in the future. On a piece of paper (on the left side) draw a simple diagram of the existing relationship (use the chart above for ideas) and then draw the one you want to have on the right side. In the middle, draw what needs to happen for the new improved relationship to happen.
Find a new symbol, image for the new relationship and place it in your bedroom.
Relationship is a process (not an event) and requires work. A good rule of thumb for a successful relationship is 80/20 principle. If your relationship is 80% good then that’s really amazing. Always put anything that doesn’t work in your relationship into that 20% bracket and you’ll feel much better (it’s sometimes called reframing).
If you’re experiencing some communication problems – read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life
Environmental aspects that can harm your relationship
1. Geopathic stress: if you’re sleeping over geopathic stress you won’t rest properly and this will impact your health and your relationship.
2. Electromagnetic pollution: electro-smog is another factor that has negative effect on your sleep and health.
3. No images or symbols of love or photos together: if your love and relationship is not represented in some ways in your home, this can have damaging effects. The more photos of you both together (having fun, etc) the better and place them everywhere. If you’re single, avoid solitary images.
4. Relationship/love/marriage area: this is the furtherest area from a door to any room or house/flat. Check the state of your relationship corners. If they’re vibrant and not cluttered, the energy of love is available to you and your home is working for you. If not, activate the love areas with light, flowers, appropriate images, and objects, etc.
Case studies: location, location, location
One of my feng shui clients wrote over 10 pages of what she wanted (and didn’t want) to have in her new relationship. When I read her checklist I was a bit doubtful if such a perfect man does exist at all but we installed an extra large crystal in the love corner of her flat in London, UK and to my surprised she met her match (unbeliveably almost 90% compatible) two weeks later on a business trip in the US. The man lived in Australia. She forgot to put on her checklist that he would live in London. With some difficulty she relocated to Australia. Remember: add location to your checklist.
Case studies: age matters
Another client of mine, called me and informed me that the checklist and feng shui rock. After completing her checklist and making some changes in her bedroom she met the man of her dreams who was 85% compatible. But in her case, she forgot to add the age to her checklist. He was 15 years older than her. (I’m not saying that relationships with an age difference can’t work, but this wasn’t what she wanted.) Remember: add an approximate age of your new partner.
The lesson here is to be quite specific in terms of what you want and don’t want. Vegeterian or meat eater, smoker or non-smoker, wants to have kids or not, lives near by, the same age, taller than me or not, etc, etc – all those factors are important. A lot of people have a very unspecific criteria for a new partner (i.e. a nice person) which is not very helpful.
To sum up
1) Clarify what kind of new relationship you want to have and write it down as your checklist.
2) Improve the feng shui of your love corner in your home with appropriate symbols, images, etc.
3) Go out and meet people (on site and online).